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Should Your Boss Get The Upgrade Instead of You?

The answer to that question depends on your situation — as well as your thoughts and opinions.

Note: This article pertaining to Should Your Boss Get The Upgrade Instead of You? was originally published on Saturday, January 2, 2016 at 11:25 in the evening and has been updated.


Years ago during one business trip when I worked for a company and held the highest level of elite status with an airline, I was upgraded to a seat in the premium class cabin; while the person to whom I reported did not — and as I watched him walk the “walk of shame” down the aisle towards the seat to which he was assigned in the economy class cabin, I simply smiled at him from the comfort of my seat while sipping on my pre-departure beverage.

Should Your Boss Get The Upgrade Instead of You?

In response, he sneered at me while mumbling a few expletives under his breath.

We had a great relationship where we joked around with each other all of the time. He never acted like he was my superior. We worked very well together, laughed a lot, and had a great time on the job. We were quite productive as well. I still miss that interaction which we had — but I also never let him forget about that upgrade.

Do not feel bad for him: he never let me forget a lot of things either — and that was just fine with me. I could take it just as well as I dished it out…

…but more often than not, many people unfortunately do not seem to have that kind of relationship with their bosses. That can lead to some awkward scenarios — such as when you get an upgrade and your boss does not.

What do you do if you find yourself in that situation?

Should Your Boss Get The Upgrade Instead of You?

Apparently little has changed since I first asked the question “You are Upgraded. Your Boss is Not. What Do You Do?” here at The Gate With Brian Cohen greater than 19 years ago. First, let us start with an excerpt from a discussion which I highlighted in that article:

“So a bunch of us that work together that FLY everywhere were talking at dinner last night”, recalled FlyerTalk member iCorpRoadie. “We recounted a story when we all worked at the same company and FLEW EVERYWHERE for work. Once the CEO of the company was going to fly with us, well we were all upgraded to First and he wasn’t. At the time one of the co-workes and the CEO were not on good terms and told his supervisor that if anything was said about us all being in first and the CEO being back in coach, he would quit his job (at the time we were all at a point where we wanted to quit).

“Sure enough, as we all preboarded and sat there in first drinking and such, the rest of the cabin began to fill in, the CEO of our company at the time boarded and well as he walked past under his breath he said ‘you f***ers’. Needless to say the one that threatened to quit did that week. Over the course of two years we all were either fired or quit that were on that flight and we all formed a sorta co-op of working together and are WAY better off now than ever before.”

Would you have given up your upgrade to the chief executive officer?

What if you had a higher elite status than the person to whom you report at the company where you are employed? Matters only seem to be worsened if you are unfortunate enough to report to a person who is simply jealous.

What if you were outright ordered to give up your upgrade to your boss?

If I were the boss and a subordinate secured an upgrade where I had not, it would be of no issue to me at all, as that person most likely earned the upgrade. Likewise, if I were faced with being forced to relinquish my upgrade to a superior, I would consider quitting that job.

My Rationale — As Naïve as It May Be

You should enjoy working for a living — whether you are employed at a company or operate your own business. You should not have to deal with politics and allow a hierarchy to dictate your happiness — or lack thereof. You earned that upgrade by traveling on your own time for company business — even if the company paid for your travel.

Some people are of the mindset that because the company paid for your travel, they get to dictate how you travel. That is true to a point: I can understand why a company would purchase a seat in the economy class cabin instead of the premium class cabin to save money; although some companies will approve the purchase of a seat in the premium class cabin when minimum standards of its travel policies are met in order to ensure that the value of the productivity of employees exceeds the cost of the upgraded travel. That concept is known as a return on investment.

However, if you earned elite level status as a result of the frequency of travel to which you had already committed and endured — and that upgrade did not cost a penny to the company — then you should not be denied that upgrade, in my opinion. If your boss wants that upgrade so badly, he or she can pay for it out of his or her pocket if the company will not approve the expense.

How many times have you traveled on your own time for company business? Can you count the number of times company business took precedence over your own personal business which would be considered important to you? Think of all of the times you:

Yeah. You earned that upgrade, my friend.

Final Boarding Call

If you are at your job because you need the money but are unhappy, I would suggest as a certified managerial coach that you should consider rethinking your priorities and set goals to get you from where you are now to a position where you feel like you are stealing money because you enjoy the work that you do so much. A boss should be supportive of you — not jealous or vindictive…

…but we all know that that is the ideal situation and not always the way it works, unfortunately.

Work should be fun. You should wake up in the morning raring to go — not dreading the day which lies ahead for you. For some people, travel — and its perks, which seem to be more difficult to earn and enjoy these days — is part of that fun when working. You should not have to worry about someone taking your fun and what you enjoy away from you.

Am I wrong here? Is there something which I am missing?

Photograph ©2019 by Brian Cohen.

  1. So this is a story of nothing, where one person realized that another person has a privilege that second doesn’t. Why would you waste our time and post this?

  2. Slight variation. A friend was flying on a business trip with a co-worker. At the gate my friend was called up to the podium and informed she had been upgraded to the last seat in first. She turned it down out of a sense of camaraderie with her co-worker. She goes back to her seat at the gate and co-workers asks why she was called up. She tells him. SURE ENOUGH they then announce HIS name, he goes up to the podium and then TAKES the last upgrade to first, leaving her to stew in coach!

  3. It’s always good (and as Jews, we are commanded to do so) to give the benefit of the doubt, even when it’s challenging to think of any mitigating circumstance, unless the apparent truth is indisputable. Is it possible that he wasn’t actually cursing at you? In any case, I don’t think you have to feel bad, since you earned the upgrade and he didn’t. You could have offered him the seat as he walked by (if the airline let), at least that way you wouldn’t have continued to feel bad if he declined.

  4. It is not uncommon that lower ranking employees have to fly a lot and earn airline status. However, the one who stays at home more is the real winner.

    If the non-elite is mad, then it is possible to be more diplomatic. Do that by boarding towards the end.

    I once had a boss who needed to be in Los Angeles at the same time I had to be there. He choose the connection in SLC while I chose the non-stop. Who is smarter? Big deal that he got some miles in his favorite program.

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